How We Stayed Sane in the Final Weeks Before Our Wedding 💍✨

If you ask any married couple what the most stressful part of planning was, nine times out of ten they’ll say: the final stretch. The last two to three weeks before the wedding can feel like a whirlwind — vendors need confirmations, family members have questions, fittings and rehearsals are happening, and suddenly your inbox is full of “just one more thing” emails.

For us, that crunch time was real. But looking back, a few choices made all the difference in keeping our sanity intact. Here’s what worked for us, and what we’d recommend to other couples heading into those final weeks.

We Made a “No Wedding Talk After 8 PM” Rule

This was a game-changer. Every evening, no matter what chaos the day brought, we drew a line. After 8pm, it was no more wedding planning, no more seating chart debates, no more budget stress. Instead, we’d watch a series, cook dinner together, or just talk about everyday life.

Why it worked: It reminded us that we were more than a wedding date — we were two people building a marriage. Protecting that time together kept us grounded and connected.

We Delegated Like Crazy

By the final weeks, we realised: not everything had to be done by us. We handed over tasks like welcome bag packing, last-minute RSVP chasing, and even playlist finalisation to trusted friends and family.

Why it worked: Delegating gave our loved ones a way to feel involved while taking the pressure off us. And honestly? No one notices if the wedding favours aren’t lined up perfectly — they just notice if the couple looks stressed.

We Built in “Sanity Buffers”

Two days before the wedding, we had NOTHING scheduled. No errands, no to-dos. Just a buffer for any last-minute issues. And yes — things popped up (a missing tie for the groomsman, a florist delivery delay). But because we weren’t overbooked, we could handle it without spiraling.

Why it worked: Leaving room for the unexpected is one of the best gifts you can give yourself. Weddings are beautiful, but rarely flawless.

We Prioritised Self-Care

The day before the wedding, I booked a massage and he went golfing with his groomsmen. It might sound indulgent, but those few hours of release were priceless. We showed up to our rehearsal dinner relaxed instead of frazzled.

Why it worked: You can’t pour from an empty cup. Investing in your own calm energy is just as important as investing in décor or catering.

Guests Still Noticed the Calm

After the wedding, so many people told us, “You both looked so relaxed and happy!” That, to us, was the ultimate win. The calmness we protected in those last weeks translated into joy on the day.

Our Advice for Future Couples 🌿

Set boundaries: Decide when wedding talk stops each day.

Delegate boldly: People want to help — let them.

Leave white space: Keep at least a day or two free before the wedding.

Care for yourselves: Book a spa treatment, take a hike, or just rest.

At the end of the day, no one remembers if the centrepieces were slightly off or if the seating plan had to change. What guests remember is the joy radiating from you. Protecting your sanity ensures you can actually enjoy your own wedding. And isn’t that the whole point? 💛